No Pornovember

Yeah, you read right! I’m talking about porn. Someone’s got to. (It does take some guts for me to write about controversial things. My arms are tingling.)

Porn has personally affected (read: wounded) myself and my loved ones and the Fight the New Drug movement is a cause that I hold dear to my heart.

I’m not dishing out judgment. Life is hard. Everyone deals with things. I just wanted to share some truth, some hope and some light on the subject. I believe in transparency and honesty and a good ol’ dose of reality. Porn affects the vast majority of young men and women in this day and age (first exposure becoming younger and younger) and it’s anything but harmless. Growing up, no one talked to me about it, and I am committed to being more engaged with my children at every stage on this topic along with all other tough issues of our modern day.

With that, I leave you your required reading for the night: Fight the New Drug – No PorNovember! Sign up for updates if this cause is important to you!

Obviously, feel free to share with anyone and everyone!

Peace and love ❤️

What are You Capable Of?

I’m having good ol’ bacon and eggs for dinner (cause why not?). I could use some soul food. My kids are both sick (curse you, Transition of Seasons!) and are therefore more irritable and demanding. The level of crazy in this house has gone up at least 40%. Thankfully, the supplements I’ve started using seem to help me keep immunity from whatever they usually catch. Sick kids + sick mom = Game Over. No thanks. But seriously, this needs to be over soon. It’s been over two weeks of fighting and crying and driving me all kinds of crazy.

We still have some of those helium balloons from my sister in law’s going away party. Most of them are deflated and lying around on the floor, but at some point last week when they were still afloat, I had an interesting experience with them.

There were 8. Somehow (probably my curious, wild child) all their strings managed to get tangled up in knots. T really wanted to play with one or two of them separately (they want what they want, right?) but as hard as he tried, he couldn’t separate any of them. So I’m thinking, ok simple enough request. He’s not asking to set them on fire, he just wants his stand alone balloons back. Super Mom, work your magic! But it was not an inspiring knot. It looked pretty awful. My first (and second and third) thoughts were Forget it, these balloons are history. There’s no way I can untie this mess. I told T he just had to find something else to play with because the knot was impossible to untie. He whined and whimpered and finally got distracted.

Later, while he was at daycare, I looked back at those balloons. I wasn’t doing anything particularly important, so I figured Eh, what the heck let me give it a shot. I’m sure it won’t work, but I’ll see if I can somehow force out just one or two. Maybe I’ll get some scissors…

Lo and behold, six to seven minutes later, every balloon was neatly floating on its own. After I had taken the time to look up close and analyze what I was working with, I developed a little more motivation to dig in. And after I started pulling and prodding here and there very slowly and very carefully, I realized the knot was not, in fact, impossible. Bit by bit, a little budge here and a little twist there, the knot got looser and I could start to see the connections and which strings were holding which strings, which ones I would have to pull out first to free the ones underneath. It started to make sense and seem completely doable.



Being the profound person that I am, I immediately had an epiphany, a revelation. 

🌸This is a metaphor for life.🌸

Many, many times, you’re going to look at a situation and instinctively, automatically think It can’t be done. I’m here to tell you, friend, many, many of these daunting things can be done. They may take a little (or a lot of) time and effort and a closer look, but once you get into them, I am certain you will surprise yourself and find that you are actually capable of way more than you may initially think. For some reason, our minds so quickly turn to doubt, without any good reason. This has been proved to me in many situations in my own life (e.g. believing I could never memorize a piece in another language, assuming I couldn’t pass my Life and Health exam, and proving myself totally wrong each time. And the list goes on.)

Believe in yourself and what you’re capable of. The first step is a positive attitude. If you’re like most people, there are a plethora of things you may have contemplated and dropped before trying very hard because of an assumption that you “can’t”. An assumption that is not true! You CAN! Sometimes our minds get in our way. Go out and prove to yourself that you can do something you thought you never could. Just to say you did. You’ll be so inspired. And it’ll start to become a way of life. Silencing the negative thoughts and proving them wrong time and time again. Don’t forget that feeling and then do it again the next time! 

If you have any experiences to share, I’d love to hear them below!